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Fear, doubt, faith, marriage, dreams

My new favorite quote: on overcoming obstacles to achieving your dreams

Fear, doubt, faith, marriage, dreams

The leap of faith necessary to conquer fear and doubt and achieve your dreams.

You may be seeking a soulmate, but what about your dreams for yourself as a person – your spiritual, emotional, professional, pie-in-the-sky dreams?

Finding a lasting relationship is a life goal for many people. Once you read Harry Hudson’s story, you might broaden your perspective about “marriage”.

I first read about Harry on Viral Nova. His story touched me, as it undoubtedly has touched many other people. Diagnosed with curable leukemia at a young age, at the dawn of his musical career, Harry documented the progress of his treatment and recovery. He demonstrates that a positive attitude and sense of gratitude can go a long way.

There are many wonderful “tweets” shared in the Viral Nova story, but one of them stood out:

“I cheated on my fears, broke up with my doubts, got engaged to my faith, and now I’m marrying my dreams.

Wow. That is a goal to which we can all aspire.

To put the cherry on top, this quote was posted on my 60th birthday, November 29, 2013. For some strange reason, that makes me feel even more connected to Harry.

You can follow Harry at @RealHarryHudson on Instagram to keep up with his story – I know that I will.

These are the questions I am pondering today, and would love to hear your thoughts:

  • Are you ready to get over your doubts and fears and commit to your dreams?
  • What is standing in your way? 

Happy Christmas! A story of generosity in a time of tragedy.

Jenn and Erick before Erick's devastating diagnosis.

Jenn and Erick in happier times.

It has only been a few days since I discovered the story of Jenn and Erick, an engaged couple who had planned to marry in August 2014. Their plans came to a screeching halt on December 17, 2013 when Erick was diagnosed with terminal cancer and given less than a year to live. They contacted their wedding photographer, Shannon Grant of Shannon Grant Photography, to give her the news that the wedding was cancelled. Facing a financial crunch, they told her they were planning something like a quickie courthouse wedding. But that wasn’t good enough for Shannon, who wanted to see this sweet couple get the wedding of their dreams.

So Shannon took action on Facebook. She created a page, “Let’s Give Them A Wedding!” asking for help. Within hours, the generous wedding professionals of New England had stepped up with an outpouring of services covering everything you need for a wedding, and then some. All you have to do is to read the story of this couple and even if you don’t know them, you are moved and you want to help.

I am one of the vendors who is privileged to be participating in this venture. I have never met Jenn or Erick, nor did I know of Shannon before this all started – we had mutual friends in the New England wedding industry whose posts got me involved. Not only do I want them to have a day to remember, I want to be among those who capture the memories of these events so Jenn and her son can treasure them for a lifetime. I wrote this press release to spread the word and give more people an opportunity to participate in any way they can.

Wedding professionals often get a bad rap – take this recent New York Times article about the industry being ruled by the needs of “bridezillas.” I like to think that the response to Shannon’s call for help demonstrates the true generous nature of the wedding industry for those in need.

Christmas may come and go, but the season of giving really lasts all year. Take a look at the press release about this couple, check out their gofundme.com page, and donate if you can. You’ll be helping this deserving couple.  And you will be reminded to be grateful for your own health and count your blessings everyday. Your world can change in a second. In the words of the late, great Warren Zevon, “Life is short. Enjoy every sandwich.”

The face and force behind the battle for marriage equality, the magnificent Edith Windsor: “I am today an out lesbian, O.K., who just sued the United States of America, which is kind of overwhelming for me.”

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Edith Windsor (on right), shown with her wife Thea Clara Spyer, talking about what makes marriage different, and why the ability to marry makes a difference.

Edith Windsor was only married for two years, but she was with her partner Thea Clara Spyer for more than 40 years. Now she is the face of the fight for marriage equality before the United States Supreme Court.

Thea and Edith married in 2007, when Thea was gravely ill and was given less than a year to live. After only 21 months of marriage, Thea died, leaving her estate to Edith. Because their marriage was not legally recognized, Edith was responsible for paying more than $300,000 in estate taxes on her inheritance – money that she never would have owed, as she said, if her spouse’s name was Theo and if it was a man she had met only the day before he died.

Edith and Thea led a full life in the 42 years they shared together. They traveled, owned a house in the Hamptons, loved dancing, and shared an apartment on Fifth Avenue in New York City. Through the years, they shared a committed relationship, but they something was missing. They found that missing element once they were married.

From the New York Times: 

Even though they were married for only the final two years of their 40-year relationship, she said something intangible but unmistakable changed after they were married. “For anybody who doesn’t understand why we want it and why we need it,” she said, “it is magic.”

Anyone with a beating heart should be able to understand that.

Edith Windsor, you rock. Thank you for your courage and your brave heart. I stand with you.

An unusual “all-inclusive” wedding package – covering everything from the ring to the reception – would you accept that proposal?

Photo of LOVE sculpture by Robert Indiana taken in Philadelphia by Carol Colman

Photo of LOVE sculpture by Robert Indiana taken in Philadelphia by Carol Colman

Philadelphia, the City of Brotherly Love. At least one hotel wants to prove why Philadelphia is also known as “The City That Loves You Back.”

We all know that planning a wedding can be stressful. There are so many decisions to make.

But what if you lead a busy life and you are someone who hasn’t been dreaming about the perfect wedding day since you were a small child? What if a Philadelphia hotel offered a package of services that took care of everything from the proposal (complete with ring valued at $50,000 and a photographer for the occasion), to an engagement celebration complete with champagne and in-room couples massage, to a ballroom reception with food and drink? That eliminates a lot of decisions for you.

And it may be a bargain – a value of over $100,000 for only $80,000.

That’s what you get with the Hotel Monaco’s “Diamond in the Sky” package. As reported by the Bridal Bulletin blog (from the editors of Philadelphia Wedding), “ it not only takes care of a pretty awesome engagement weekend, it also includes your big day celebration.” They reserve a private place for the question to be popped, a photographer to capture the moment, and an engagement ring worth $50,000. Then they set you up in a suite to celebrate your newly engaged status with lots of goodies for an entire weekend. Finally, they cater your wedding celebration in the historic Lafayette Ballroom for 200 of your closest friends and family.

And this package isn’t only for loving couples already in the Philadelphia area. If you get engaged as part of this package while you are visiting Philadelphia, your package includes a first-class trip home (within the continental United States). (For Philadelphia locals, you have access to the tickets for a trip at your convenience).

This may be a pretty good deal.

As reported by ABC News,” Philadelphia weddings cost $37,014 on average, not far off from the costs in other northeastern areas where wedding costs were high.” This figure came from a survey done by TheKnot.com and WeddingChannel.com of brides who were at least 18 and got married in 2011. Wedding costs in Philadelphia are higher than the average wedding cost of $27,021 for the country as a whole.

Add in the $50,000 ring and all the engagement weekend bonuses and the finances start to look good. But as we all know, weddings are are about a lot more than money (the recent “Wedding Confidential” report on 20/20 notwithstanding, but more on that at a later date).

If you haven’t thought of the City of Brotherly Love as a place to get engaged or married, maybe this package will make you take a second look.

But if this appeals to you, act now – this offer is being made for a limited time only!

So what do you think about this proposal package? Can something be both practical and romantic at the same time? If so, does this accomplish that?